Use Your Voice

Lately I’ve been thinking about something my father sometimes said to me when I was a child.  If I was being too talkative or boisterous, he’d say, “Children are to be seen and not heard.”

As a youngster, you would’ve called me a “Chatty Cathy”. I recall some of my elementary school teachers included that in my report card comments!

I remember one time my brother bet me $5 (a lot of money back then!) that I couldn’t go without speaking for 24 hours. This was not an easy task for me, but I did it!  

Today, I’m more selective in using my voice. I often find myself listening more. I also like to observe all the dynamics surrounding a conversation. That is, unless it’s something I’m passionate about or have a strong opinion about. Then, I have a lot to say!

Last week, I was pondering this topic while I was walking on the beach at low tide. There sitting at the edge of a pool of water sat a gull squawking. I thought to myself, “Boy is he LOUD!” I stopped to watch him (perhaps the gull was a she…). He hopped around and then took to flight, still squawking.

Once he landed, I asked him if he had a message that he wanted me to share. I heard “Use Your Voice”. Then he took flight again and continued to squawk. Well, it was clear he was modeling this behavior for me!

As I continued my walk I thought about his message. There are many ways you can use your voice. It’s quite an amazing tool that can be taken for granted.

You may use your voice to:

  • Educate
  • Express how you’re feeling
  • Build connection
  • Advocate
  • Debate
  • Stand out
  • Or something else…

The gull was using his voice to stand out. There were other gulls and birds in the area as this gull was squawking. My attention was immediately drawn to him, and it made me curious about what was causing him to squawk. For example, was he trying to keep the other gulls away? Was he calling his friends to come eat from this pool? Or was he sounding the warning alarm because I had stepped on to the beach. There are so many possibilities…

One of my favorite ways to use my voice is as an animal advocate. During my animal communication readings, I’m the “middleman” between the person and their beloved animal. Usually, the person has questions they want answered, such as:

  • Why is my pet <fill in the blank> (e.g. not eating, constantly barking, hiding, peeing in the house or outside the litter box)?
  • How can I make my pet more comfortable?
  • Should I have done more before my pet passed?

I believe our animals want to help their person become the best version of himself/herself. During my animal communication readings, I share what the animal is working on with their person. I love advocating for the animals in this way, especially since they only want the very best for us!

Working with my business coaching clients allows me to use my voice in other ways. For example, the questions I ask them can help to discover and clarify their voice. During our work together, my client can experiment with different voices. They can figure out what works best for them in a safe space. As they do this, often they’ll have an epiphany! They realize their voice is uniquely theirs. This encourages them to truly step into their authenticity!  

How do you use your voice?

Keep in mind, using your voice isn’t only about words that come out of your mouth as you speak. It also includes what you write, draw, sing, etc.

When you use your voice to do amazing things that reflect

  • who you are
  • what you stand for
  • what’s most important to you

That’s when you make a big impact on the world!

Helen Kosinski

I'm an ICF credentialed coach and a certified animal communicator. I partner with ever evolving intuitive businesspeople who are on a mission to create a big impact. Before opening my business in 2005, I spent close to 25 years in technology in the financial services industry. Because of my time in corporate, I understand the overwhelm and frustration that keeps businesspeople stuck. I offer my clients unique approaches to gain clarity. This results in dissolving their blocks, getting unstuck and forging ahead to bring their big impact into the world.

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