Perfectly Imperfect

As you start a new year, many people are raring to move forward! You have exciting plans for what you want to do. And, then before long, you’re stuck.

What gets in your way? Sometimes as you start moving forward, your focus becomes all about getting it “right”. You may also tell yourself this thing you’re creating must be perfect. Has that ever happened to you? I know it has for me!

Perfection doesn’t exist.

Perfection is something someone else has defined to herd people into a particular way of doing something or a way of being.

In truth, perfection is defined in any way you want for any situation. This means, my definition of perfection in a situation, could be very different than yours. Both would be perfect!

Frequently, we get hung up on the fact that we must be perfect. Then we take tons of time and energy trying to live up to this nebulous concept of perfection.

I remember when I was interviewing for jobs, I proudly stated, “I’m a perfectionist”. Why was that something I was proud of sharing? What does a person gain from being a perfectionist?

Many of my new business owner clients focus on perfection, especially before they even open their business. It’s as if they feel there is this perfect path they must take. If they do everything perfectly, they will be successful. Since I started my coaching business in 2005, I have not found this perfect path to success!

One my discoveries, as I’ve worked with my coaching clients, is they don’t follow a cookie cutter mold. They do it their own way! That’s what makes them so successful.

Today, my client base has shifted. I partner with people who want to transform their lives as they create a meaningful impact in the world. Additionally, I’ve determined combining my coaching with animal communication provides unique insights. This is an innovative service. If I follow the path of a perfectionist, how do I do this work perfectly, when there isn’t anyone else doing what I do?  

Being different can feel exciting and scary! I often tell my coaching clients this is a lovely combination. It’s one I look for when they are sharing something brand new. A person must be brave to take steps forward into unchartered territory. They also must redefine what perfect is as they go.

As you start 2023, how can you move forward even if it doesn’t feel as though everything is perfect? How can you give yourself permission to leave the chains of perfection behind? What must you do to allow yourself to follow the imperfect path that makes your heart sing? How can you allow yourself to be perfectly imperfect?

“Life isn’t meant to be lived perfectly…but merely lived. Boldly, wildly, beautifully, uncertainly, imperfectly, magically, lived.” ~ Mandy Hale

Helen Kosinski

I'm an ICF credentialed coach and a certified animal communicator. I partner with ever evolving intuitive businesspeople who are on a mission to create a big impact. Before opening my business in 2005, I spent close to 25 years in technology in the financial services industry. Because of my time in corporate, I understand the overwhelm and frustration that keeps businesspeople stuck. I offer my clients unique approaches to gain clarity. This results in dissolving their blocks, getting unstuck and forging ahead to bring their big impact into the world.

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